Hugh thinks he’s above the laws of Montana
Excerpted from his own blog at hughmcbryde.blogspot.com
Sunday, September 26, 2010
“A divorce always has one party primarily responsible for it, and in my divorce (without trying to duck responsibility I may have) was clearly my first wife’s fault.
My wife (according to a counselor and witnesses of the marriage) started trying to break up the marriage approximately two years into the relationship that ended up lasting 15 years (officially).
For a period of time in the marriage it got physical.
From about the second year to sometime in year 6 or 7 (maybe 8, probably not) there was shoving that went on.
She started it.
My violence began with what you might call ‘gateway’ violence, and ended there before it got worse.
I am, and was ashamed of myself, it was wrong, but I have not been violent since, and pretty much was not violent before that.
Having said that my wife was the first violent person in the marriage, and she was the last, having jumped on my back and beaten me with her fists while trying to pull out my hair about a month before she threw me out of the house.
She did this in front of the children. I do know she spread the story that I was dangerous in the whole town of Fairfield MT, which is very small.
For that reason after a period of time I always resolved to drive around and not through it so that no one could ever say they saw me there to give legs to her claims.
Additionally, I wanted at times very badly to ‘cheat’ on my wife, and on occasions, very seriously contemplated doing so, but did not.
I say ‘cheat’ for the sake of convention. I have only been with two in my life, my first, and my second wife, and my first wife threw me out of the house prior to my meeting my second wife, though I met my second wife that very same day.
From the State of Montana’s perspective, the divorce was final in November of 1996.
I had not lived under the same roof as my wife for a year.
I did not contest the divorce, though I showed up for the hearing.
Her lawyer asked for sole custody of the children and as a result of my not resisting, got it.
I sent her a letter in 2001 stating I was divorcing her and had communicated many times to her that I did not regard the Civil divorce as valid, until I made a decree of divorce.”